An Alibi with sexual desire
And if the cinema in love with the women were less blue flower than it appears to with it first of all? It is the assumption of the psychoanalyst Sophie Cadalen (3): “He also answers a more unconscious strategy: to camouflage the “believed” aspect of the desire to make it morally acceptable. The women do not dare, or in any case very seldom, to pose their desire in what it has of crude. They need to shelter behind the alibi of the love, “honorable” goals such as the marriage and maternity. ”
Behind a questioning as apparently romantic as: “You believe that I can call it? You believe that I can show him my feelings? You believe that I can propose a restaurant to him? ”, a second, unconscious hides some: “Does my desire for this man shock you? Do you think that I have the right to sleep with him? ”
The men, them, never pose the problem of the legitimacy of their desire. Culturally, they are authorized, and even encouraged, to show itself wishing. However, they also have their side shopgirl, ensures Nicolas Guéguen, professor of social and cognitive psychology (lireplus low): “But the great difference is that a man does not spend the hours to the telephone with his best buddy to try to decode each word left the mouth its dulcinée, observes it. And it does not call it either in middle of the night to announce to him that it has just fallen on the ideal woman whom it hoped for since always. It waits the following day and says rather: “It is frankly exciting.” ”
All the films have an end
To be made films belongs to the great pleasures of the existence. However, the day when a woman finds really the “good”, the machine with fantasmer starts to slow down. It is with in love one that the projects are erected scaffolding then, say the desires, are expressed fears. It is not that, brutally, we repudiate any imaginary life to live finally in rough reality – human psychism needs too. However, it is undeniable, the camera of our daydreams in love ceases turning to full mode at the time when the love is concretized. Quite simply because we find there a satisfaction higher than that gotten by our settings in scene. And that, temporarily, we do not need more them…
The men also are made their cinema
Nicolas Guéguen, professor of social and cognitive psychology at the university of Brittany-South and author of 100 Small Experiments of psychology of the seduction, dismounts some generally accepted ideas on the love with the masculine.
““Has which moment are you seen that you had fallen in love?” American researchers posed this simple matter to several hundreds of individuals, reports Nicolas Guéguen. Eh well, the men declared themselves in love more quickly than the women: as of the fourth meeting for 20% of them, against 15% of the women. At the end of twenty meetings, only 30% of the men acknowledged anything to feel, against 43% of the women! This study proceeded in the years 1970 and I think that today, with the rehabilitation of the expression of the emotions, the number of men in love as of the fourth go would be even more important. In fact, the men often have a more idealistic vision of the love than the women. Contrary to much of them, in their daydreams in love, mainly, they grant very little importance to the incomes and the social status of the other. ”
A hypertrophied Imagination
Crucial meeting or short passion? They is in any case hours spent between friends to decipher the mysteries of the love and to build a idealized man that it is possible to make fall of his pedestal at the desired time. No love without stories nor interior scenarios! The imaginary one forms part of the love life fully. Thanks to him, I keep the image of liked at the head, I feel filled while living my daily newspaper, I sprinkle myself endorphins, these small molecules for antidepressant purpose. They is a little as to plunge itself in an illustrated book of kitchen of receipts appétissantes: a stratagem to feel pleasure when the meal is not yet ready.
Fantasmer the other is an activity common to both sexes. The specialists in psychism however agree to say that it is particularly intense side woman. The hypertrophy of imagination in love female is explained several manners. Initially, traditionally, the love is held for the business of the women. Then, “high during centuries from the point of view of the Good match, the women remained programmed to dream the Great Meeting, condition supposed of their happiness”, points out the psychotherapist Sylvie Tenenbaum (1). “A long time,
the culture maintained them in position of waiting, supplements Genevieve Djénati (2), psychological clinician. Locked up in their kitchen, the women had only their daydreams waked up to try to include/understand what their husbands carried out outside. ” Thus, to resist the trouble and to project themselves in an existence more exciting, they had to develop their imaginative potential. Those which feel reluctant to be made films of are not deprived: they are afraid to give each other false hopes. “I avoid making me films, I am too afraid to leave in gimlet, acknowledges Claudia, 37 years. I fear that my daydreams bring me too far and I do not want to be disappointed by have hoped for the beautiful story and to have idealized the other. ”
Test your mythology to find your way
First weekend of spring, a vast office in XVe district, in Paris. Around a table, six people come to take part in a seminar with the name in the form of enigma: “Autographie-Projects of life”. It will be question of labyrinth, Minotaure, wire of ARIANE and of projects, let us not know we more. Why am I there? At 33 years, I feel the need to give a progress report on the traversed, professional and personal way. Of knowing where I am for better knowing where I go.
“From which place do you come? ”: it is precisely the first question put by Francoise Bernard, council in formation, psychoanalyst and creative of this method of orientation and accompaniment of projects. On a white sheet, I write: “Of Belgium”, and I add without really reflecting: “Fuzzy Country where the sky, the ground and the sea merge. ” On this country left here ten years, on these a little vague roots on the side of the North Sea, I decide to make the starting point of my initiatory play. The first wire of my history.
cumulonimbus
How does a cumulonimbus Occur?
The air heated by radiation from the Sun on the Earth’s surface expands and becomes lighter than air on top of him. It rises, like a balloon. If the air is humid enough, water vapor in it condenses into water droplets: a type of cumulus cloud appears. In an unstable atmosphere, the vertical motion of air are intense and will encourage this by condensing the magnification of the cloud, which is growing and gaining altitude. The highest droplets turn into ice crystals: the cumulus becomes a cumulonimbus.
What will happen in a cumulonimbus?
The audience is a plant thermodynamics, which is nurtured by warm, moist air to provide energy for upward movement. His energy is considerable: each second, a large cumulonimbus can aspire 700 000 tons of air and absorb and 8 800 tonnes of water vapor. The same cloud can return to the earth’s surface 4 000 tons of water in the form of liquid water, snow or hail.
The storms generally act as electric generators, creating a common ground led to the cloud. Indeed, the vertical motion of air in the audience are very violent: brewed by winds exceeding 130 km / h, the particles of water and ice cloud collide. These collisions cause many electrifying the cloud, where particles of opposite sign regroup at various stages since the surface (negatively charged) to the summit (positively charged). . Microdécharges the spread and then eventually establish electric connection between the cloud and the ground.
Storm explained
A storm is an atmospheric phenomenon characterized by a series of lightning and thunder shots. A flash can be activated within the cloud, between two clouds or between the cloud and the ground (the lightning strike).
The storm is always linked to the presence of a cumulonimbus cloud type, also called storm cloud. It is often accompanied by a set of phenomena violent gusts of wind, precipitation – sometimes small – and sometimes winds folding, or waterspout or tornado.
The storm is usually a short-term phenomenon: from a few tens of minutes to several hours. It can be isolated (storm due to the presence of reliefs or caused by the warming of the soil in summer) or organized online (the “squall line” by meteorologists).
For certain conditions, thunderstorms can regenerate continuously in the same place or replace them at their peak of maturity. They cause and during several hours of heavy rainfall leading to floods.
The storm cloud: the mighty cumulonimbus
The cumulonimbus cloud is the characteristic phenomena thunderstorms. It is also responsible for all hailstorms. This giant cloud threatening, off 5 to 10 km, can reach up to 15 km altitude in our latitudes. At its peak, the audience faces the stratosphere and spread widely, which gives it its shape Anvil (or, sometimes, panache or hair ébouriffée).