To find the right authority by exceeding its fears

He does not want to go to lie down”, “It is the comedy as soon as arrives the hour of the duties”, “He makes any only at his head”… These testimony of parents, Claude Halmos almost daily hears them in consultation. Causes it of this great parental distress? “The absence of authority, affirms the psychoanalyst. These parents who, in addition, deal with their children and try to be most attentive possible do not impose what they should impose. Either because they refuse by principle any position of authority, or because, although the acceptor, they do not manage to support it. ” Untiring militant of education, Claude Halmos knows, to have a long time worked in difficult suburbs, that it is the absence of education, therefore of authority – family, school or social -, which manufactures the delinquency. “To educate a child, it is him to learn how to become a civilized being. ” That supposes, side parents, of firmness, constancy and, especially, the conviction that this authority is legitimate because, without it, the newborn can build himself.

But, to show, still is necessary it to be able to exceed its own resistances, sometimes solid, which are opposed to its exercise. For the psychoanalyst, the parents are aware that these are the fears which prevent them from positioning with accuracy. These fears, we submitted them to Claude Halmos, so that it informs us on their feel and proposes tracks to us to exceed them.